Part of why I’m not posting much on Facebook right now is that I am fed up with not being able to screen comments before they are posted, close comment threads, or disable comments on a post altogether. Those are really basic features that should be a part of any web site. I know there’s a workaround some have employed that partially works by blocking very common words, but it’s just that, a workaround, and a kludgy one at that.
I welcome comments on my own blog, and I read every one, though the vast majority right now are spam (caught by a filter, fortunately). But not a single comment is made visible to the public until I see it first. I don’t want hateful, oppressive speech lingering on a page with my name on it whether the words are directed at me or at someone else.
Regardless, I reserve the right to moderate my own spaces as I see fit. No one has the right to “free speech” on my personal web site or social media profile. Many try to shame people like me by saying we want to live in an echo chamber, but for marginalized people, avoiding triggering language can be a matter of survival.