Hi Ash — I worry that suggesting mediation between TERFs and trans women suggests that they’re on an equal playing field. They are not. TERFs as cisgender women (even if they reject that word) have privilege over trans women, and have misused that privilege to do terrible things to them — misgendering, deadnaming, outing, doxxing, even driving them to suicide in some cases. This is not just media hype; this is really happening. When trans women fight back against trans-antagonism from cis people it is “punching up”, not punching down, and should be viewed in the same way as black folks (like myself) fighting back against racism from white people.
While trans women, who they (wrongly) consider to be males, are the primary targets of TERF hatred, they consider us transmasculine people to be females, which we are not. I will not attempt to reason or negotiate with people who do not accord my trans sisters, brothers, non-binary siblings, or myself with the least bit of respect.